The Power of Words Should Never Be Underestimated

Have you ever told yourself that you couldn’t do something, and then you tried to do it and failed?

Have you ever told yourself that you could do something and, even though your odds of success were low, you succeeded anyway?

Almost everyone can think of an example of each of these situations in their own lives and if they can’t, they can surely find examples in the lives of their friends or family. So why is it that things work out in our favor sometimes….and sometimes not-so-much?

Words Affect You Physically

There are various theories and schools of thought on this matter. In the book, Words Can Change Your Brain, Dr. Andrew Newberg and his co-author, Mark Robert Waldman, argue that words can physiologically alter a person’s brain activities. They state that positive and negative words have opposite effects on the human brain.

Positive words activate the motivational centers of the brain while negative words trigger the fear center of your brain to act. This finding is just one more reason to avoid using negative words when setting your goals. Phrases like, “because my blog is so lame, I want to work on it this year” actually ends up being counterproductive for the person setting the goal of wanting a better blog. Revise it to say “I have a lot to offer to my blog readers so I’m going to work hard this year to bring it to them.”

Many people don’t consider words having any physiological effects on a person’s body, but they still believe that they can lift you up or bring you down. For example, if a person is told that they’re stupid for a period of time, they will usually begin to feel dumb and create a self-fulfilling prophecy. So many times you’ll hear people using negative words for the sole purpose of causing another pain. These words usually have the desired effect and cause the other person to suffer emotionally.

And sometimes, those wounds never heal.


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On the flipside, words can be an amazing motivator, work to build someone up and accelerate the process of reaching success.

Use Your Words to Power the Good

Many people have tapped into the power of positive words by using them in their personal affirmations and self-talk, as well as their conversations with others. They use positive words and thoughts to encourage success and the achievement of their goals. This is an important thing to consider, since every person’s brain is hardwired to respond the same way to verbal and printed communications.

Like my mom used to say,

Compliments don’t cost money. Give them freely.

Never forget that you can use your words to tear down or build up another person. You can also use your words to tear down or build up yourself. Speaking positive words and statements aloud is important, but even just thinking them has positive effects as well.

With this in mind, remember to choose your words carefully based on the result that you are trying to receive. It doesn’t matter if the change you’re looking for is in yourself or someone else. Replace negative self-talk with positive terms and avoid the “becauses” and the “maybes,” when forming our positive and motivating goals.

Be mindful that the words you use matter. It matters to ourselves and it matters to those around us. Remember the old saying “you catch more flies with honey than vinegar,” and you will harness the magical power of words to transform positively rather than negatively.



Life’s a Garden, Dig it!

Thanks for such a sweet sentiment, Sir Joseph Dirt…

Life's a garden, dig it!


5 Ways to Clear Sidebar Clutter

For online entrepreneurs our websites are much like our second home and just like with our regular home, we love to change the appearance and add new decor now and again.

We like to “pretty things up” by playing with templates, color changes and even altering our logos, headers and images. But oftentimes the “redecorating” process spills over into our sidebars and they become much like the cluttered bulletin board at home that is filled with gaudy artwork, expired coupons and awards for things that nobody else has ever heard of.

5 Tips for Maintaining a Tidy Sidebar-102714

For online marketers, having too much “bling” on our sidebars in the way of advertisements, courses and event info can end up looking tacky and giving the visitors to our sites the wrong impression about our business.

People that land on your website get a first impression of y our site much like you get a first impression of meeting someone new. You want to put your best foot forward. Here are a few things to think about when evaluating your sidebar for clutter:

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Images on Blogs: How Many or How Few?

Content may be King, but I am pretty sure images are Queen in today’s online world. It’s no secret that quality text-based images are an excellent idea when business owners want to gain attention and encourage engagement via social media. But there is a method-to-the-madness when including them within blog posts.  So how many images should be used per blog post? Here’s the short answer; at least one, but not too many.

Clear as mud, right? Let me break it down for you:

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At the Very Least One

Readers have become very spoiled and expect to see quality images within blog posts these days, specifically images that tell a story and inspires them to want to keep reading. Images can be used at the beginning of the post as an intro of sorts, within the middle of your blog post to as visual proof of an idea, product or concept, and even at the end as a final recap that ties your blog post up in a tidy little bow.

I firmly believe that all bloggers need to include at least one quality image with text per post just to add color and light to the story.

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Don’t Let Fear Stop You…

SYC-Challenger I attended the opening ceremonies last night for the Stretch Yourself Challenge with Kelly McCausey. I’m so excited to be doing this because I’ve felt like I’m in a hamster wheel going around and around but not really making much progress.

Getting Past the Hurt

I shared with the group last night that stepping out of my comfort zone means writing from the heart. Way back when, I had someone I respected tell me something very hurtful, not on one occasion but several, which put a stop to me writing. The problem is that was just his opinion. I quit doing something I liked because I was petrified of being crushed again. No one should have that power over me (or you).

You’re probably thinking why on earth would you start a blog if you’re afraid to write. I asked myself the same thing and you know what…I’m getting over it. Don’t get me wrong there are still pain points and anxiety but if I let this fear stop me then I’m wasting my time in this business.

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